We sat in the waiting room at the clinic.
Sean was absorbed playing a game on my phone.
He continued playing, looking at the phone when my name was called, and as we subsequently walked to the room, when we got to the room, while the medical staff met with me, and even when we walked back out (with me guiding him from walking into a wall).
As we left, I smiled, saying to the staff, “what if we evolve actual third eyes in our foreheads to help us see where we are going while we look at our phones!?”
Nobody, NOBODY showed disapproval. Nobody lamented “our society” or “Kids Today.”
Somehow, I got that they each had their own 8-year-old (or thereabouts) and knew, like me, that this is not a sign of depravity, insolence, disrespect, or antisocial behavior.
Any offense taken by this phenomena is linked to our conditioning from within a judgmental, authoritarian paradigm that demanded respect, instead of modeling it.
It is a paradigm that takes offense for the sake of taking offense.
When you stand outside of that paradigm and stop assigning mal intent to others’ actions, you realize that perhaps they have reasons – as thinking, living, breathing human beings – for their choices.
Perhaps, if we stop judging what we see as offensive, we might actually feel the inclusive nature of what we deem as alienating behavior.
Perhaps we might see that if we approach things differently, with more positive perspective, we can get the results we desire and gain understanding in the process.