For the Love of Badass Beautiful Warriors

Women. Daughters, Mothers, Grandmothers, Sisters, Aunts, Friends.

I am thinking about all women who are my gatekeepers, my right shoulder truth-bearers, heraldry of my right to love myself.

Some have no mothers. Some have two mothers. Others could have been my mother. One was my Mother. Some are not even mothers, while still others are the mothers of children from other mothers, placed in their care to thrive. Some are amazing mothers even though they themselves were not mothered well. Some are mothers with children lost who forever reside within the holes they left behind in the very core of their mother’s being. Some are sisters, and some are soul sisters, and some are daughters. One is me.

My own daughters are not even my flesh and blood. They are my son’s half sisters. They are my bonus daughters, yes, but that is only their label.

To me, they are two women that I learned to mother and two women who let me into corners of their hearts even when they didn’t want to, were forced to, or had no other option but to let me be part of their stories. These daughters were children when I was still selfish, having never mothered before.

These women tore me apart inside. These women inspired my greatness. These women turned me inside out and upside down. They marked up and mucked up and twisted up my life path until I found myself so far from anything I ever expected to be that I wasn’t even sure I liked myself, much less understood the truth about self-love. These women, they raised me.


It turns out that bonus daughters have special powers. They laugh behind your back. They give you regrets. They bring you bird’s nests. They mess up your four-day weekends. They track mud into your heart, and when that clay dries, it is like you birthed them while you birthed yourself.

I gained that regrets and muddy hearts can only remain as fresh as your intentions.

What I learned from these daughters of mine is that they are my mother, and every mother, and every woman, and every daughter, and every mother’s wish for her daughter’s soul – for the purest most treasured corners of her heart.

When it comes to these women, it’s guttural. I mean raw, wake you up real. These girls, they shoved my own demons in my face like undeniable mirrors and drove me to hollow out the very essence of my maternal legacy.

After all things, their value to me is beyond measure, for they bought me through the transition that allowed my life to erupt into magnificent motherhood.

*from Chapter 4: Starfish,  in Diving with Snookie
(an unfinished story)

MagPie fell into a whirlpool of her own creation, discovering diamonds disguised as starfish. She briefly embraced abandon as her heart fooled her into believing that she was in the tousled folds of pure satisfaction. Caught up in the newness of her reverie, she caught glimpses of the starfish swirling about her.

Starfish fell between the folds of satisfaction. Starfish tangled her hair. Starfish trailed along her sticky steps. Starfish pinned themselves to her ribs. Starfish stole her sparkle. Starfish demanded her sweetness. Starfish imprinted upon her heart.

Starfish swam with her to the top of the whirlpool and lit as diamonds upon its surface. Starfish embedded themselves into her soul…




These women love their baby brother. And he looks up to them. And he has a little niece, my bonus grandchild. Children remain children needing your love for as long as you are breathing. And if they are lucky, like me, they will see that very love not dissipating when their mother’s body takes its last breath. For all her imperfections mixed up with vibrant personality, my own Mother’s validation of me permeated my every fiber as she drew hers.

That presence is reflected as self-love. It made letting go not only possible, but radiant. I felt and saw the light around me change in the moments and hours before and after her death, even though we were thousands of miles apart.

But, what brought me into this flow was something else, entirely.

After 51 years, I’ve finally found a way to give. When these women, these daughters of mine connect with me now, I feel my rightful place in simply being here for them. For comfort. Guidance. Reminders of who they intuit themselves to be. A place to check in before returning to their paths to follow their hearts like badass, beautiful warriors of life.

I realize that it all make sense when serendipity aligns the women who’ve helped me with the daughters of every generation and reflects back all the self-love I’ve learned along with all the selfless love given to me by others. And I’m still receiving it, just as I enter the turnstile to give it back.

To give it back to women – the gatekeepers, the right shoulder truth-bearers, the heraldry of our right to self-love. One is me.

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MagPie, aka Maggie Love, aka maggieorganizingchaos, aka Mags… and Mom.

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