That I see him, concretely learning to read and write is really just a notion that I get to log into the schedule for his childhood in my own brain, because I'm the one who was conditioned to expect it. I am the one who rode the bus of indoctrination. I am the one who faces the greatest struggles and challenges in allowing my child to be free.
I provided my son with mindful, responsive parenting as an infant and toddler, but the fine lines started to appear in early childhood when he was decided in what he wanted - whether it was the food he preferred or the toys and shows that interested him. I could tell because he displayed feelings of frustration if I didn't let him choose, if I didn't truly see and listen.