A mother feels between her breaths where time stops between heart beats and memory works like muscle Here at the edge of intention where childhood ends and memory of the final nursing is lost though she swore she’d never forget He artfully negotiates the room like John Wick She amuses herself with thoughts of what … Continue reading Valiant Child
When I stepped off, I stepped off into poverty. It was a long drop and happened overnight, literally as a factor of retribution for enacting a protection order. The authenticity I promoted for my child became a paradigm that I must own and not be ashamed of, and wearing the veil has become too uncomfortable to not speak my truth.
I can imagine how stressful it must be for system-based children and young adults during this time. I imagine the fear of feeling thrust off one's track, not knowing how to realign and move forward within the chaos. Whole Life Learners don't have their lives so compartmentalized. We live more in the present tense. It doesn't feel like the world is closing in on us or we are running out of time. Opportunities aren't hit or miss. Rather, they are never-ending and spiraling out all the time.
E.D.I.T. presents a video featuring unschoolers of all ages discussing how they learn without school, in Unschooling Myths, Episode 1.
The programming is difficult to rewire. The support of community exists only in pockets when you go against the grain. I am grateful especially for the single mothers who identify with what I'm saying. Our spines are interlaced as we hold the space for each other and understand the love our children need, collectively... I dreamed this process would be perfect. While it has been profound, and my child demonstrates amazing leaps in a single generation away from the very guilt and shame embedded in my DNA, he still has fear from the trauma of divorce and all that led to it and all he faces moving forward.
Their minds are already way beyond the broken record admonishment of adults. Sometimes, they are on while admitting they had to sneak due to being grounded. I chuckle at their inventiveness. Sean has never been grounded. It makes absolutely no sense to me because punishment does not reinforce intrinsic values. I'd want these kids in charge during the Zombie Apocalypse.
Living in the now in this way hurts no one. It is useful because it helps them as children (for such a short time!!) to do what they want to do, which is to play and interact over a game... to have fun. Childhood is for having fun. For playing. For learning to navigate personal autonomy and sovereignty. For practicing at real life.
In order to ebb and flow in life with continuous purpose and positive contribution, we must be given the chance to become ourselves from within the very origins of our birth so that we do not spend three to four decades back peddling against our passions and desires, trying to heal from our childhoods.
I provided my son with mindful, responsive parenting as an infant and toddler, but the fine lines started to appear in early childhood when he was decided in what he wanted - whether it was the food he preferred or the toys and shows that interested him. I could tell because he displayed feelings of frustration if I didn't let him choose, if I didn't truly see and listen.
If our society depends on teachers to save children from falling through the very cracks created by the institution caring for them for the majority of their childhoods, it is far beyond time to awaken as a society to the hard truths.