Childhood isn't a race. Every kid is different. The homogeneity of School isn't the framework for what is right or desirable for childhood development, by any means. The comparisons are a waste of energy that could be spent soaking in the spectacular and affirming (and healing) dynamics of a child free to grow at their own, individual pace.
It is the conversation many home schoolers dread. What if the school board looks you up and wants to investigate what your day truly looks like? What if they needle your child?